Difference makes creations

Difference makes creations; creation makes differences, when subject and object can unite truly. In the sea motion of cold and warm water make a new flow. In the music the meeting of low and high beat make exotic rethym. It is best time to show creativity in our life, clan, society as well all over the world by uniting the primitive difference between and among Jews and Christian, Hindu and Muslims, Black and White, North and South. Difference is not question, question is our purpose and motivation. If 2 differences go forward towards same purpose, the golden door will open, new opportunities and development will create. We will go forward to our ultimate goal and common destination. I have no fear to encounter and live with the differences. I love differences. Without combination of difference it is impossible to establish freedom, peace, unity and happiness.

Do as I Like

The break down of love and relationships is the most serious problem in the present world. We are all longing for happiness, but if we don’t know what happiness is how can really be happy? I asked many people for their opinions on happiness. Nobody could give me a clear and satisfactory answer, just smile and ignore my question. I realized that there is a lack of clarification or lack of consciousness about happiness; even though we are all moving and searching for it. As I understand it “happiness means oneness with eternal desires and accomplishment of four spheres of love; children love, siblings love, conjugal love and parental love.”

Can you imagine what terrible suffering happens when we face the lack or loss of love and relationships? I find that because of our selfish love, views, desires as well as ideas, we lose our true relationships. A huge number of the population is only physically mature but spiritually and psychologically immature, just like a child. They express their immaturity in daily life through extreme selfishness.

We know children are naturally selfish and cannot understand the emotional situations of others. They commonly show attitudes based on demand, they protest and protect their own benefits. They can show love and joy when their desires are fulfilled and sorrow when they are not. The children’s love is considered as the pre-mature stage of love. Not only children, but aged people can also show this childish love and attitudes in everyday interactions. I am sure, if we could make a video documentary of our daily life, covering both physical actions and physiological status without any edit, we would feel shy and regret after watching our degradations and selfishness.

Nowadays, parents have also lost their ideal position. Most of parents can’t be dedicated to their responsibilities because of their selfish viewpoints and ideas. Children are being raised with a ‘lack of love’ and loneliness. The `lack of love` is the origin of conflicts, depression, psychological complexity and chaos as well as all kinds of personal, family and social crimes. Mostly in the West and North children and youth are alienated; confused about their purpose and value of life. But in the East and South, children and parents are both very busy in their struggle to survive through poverty. Children and youth are commonly frustrated worldwide. In the irritation they suffer in hunger, they want to be recognized. Throughout their lives they may find the source of temporal joy, become addicted to drugs, gambling, or abnormal sexual habits like free sex and homosexuality. “Do as I like” and “My life, my freedom” become their life mottos. They enjoy wild freedom without responsibilities and disciplines by the name of human rights. The attitudes of frustrated and aggressive groups express, “No need for parents, no need to be parents; no need any authority. We are youth and don’t care about the results”. In such way they lose not only faith in life, but faith in themselves as well.

In the family, the true parents’ personality should resemble that of God. Parents should take care and love the children as God does. Children also should show absolute love, absolute faith and absolute obedience to parents as they do to God. Modern parents would like to finish their parental responsibilities just giving money and pushing the children in so called competition of professionalism and selfishness. By observing these situations, some philosophers explain, “This era is the era of no parents, no love and no God!”

With the lack of parental care, children can not also practice the sibling love. The sibling love is the precondition of societal interactions, patriotic love and saintful responsibilities to society. The filial piety always eager to do something for parents, in the way becomes serious to take care of our brothers and sisters as well as relatives. They can see and consider the whole situation objectively from parental view points, easily can sacrifice for others and become responsible. The parental and objective views encourage us to overcome jealous, anger, restlessness as well as all kind of hostility and conflicts. The serious impact of unsuccessful sibling love is religious, racial and cultural conflicts. This is strange, in the religious realms religious peoples believe to same God, say everybody about world peace and harmony; but can not tolerate each other! I think, they don’t believe actually on ‘parental God’ but believe in ‘God of dogmatism and doctrine’. True religions always look true love, harmony and peace as well as natures of parental God. True religious people practices sibling love excellently in global level, consider everybody is brothers and sisters, members of ‘God’s Family” that is “Global Family” where do not have any conflicts.

I feel sorry by remembering the saying about modern American conjugal life, “My child and your child are quarrelling with other children”. Divorce, sexual abuse, fatherless babies, homeless aged, etc. are the by-products of today’s selfish culture. Through the misuse of information and media southern countries are now influenced by the “culture of individualism”, “culture of separations”. Modern couples directly or indirectly, consciously or unconsciously consider conjugal life is ‘life of sexual partnership’, not ‘life long partnership’. Is it honest and responsible life style? Eating together, sleeping together, but living in different world with limitless disagreements can give us peace and happiness? Personally I think “do as I like” motto can not give us real salvation and total freedom. To rejoice true freedom, we must have to be responsible in a personal level, family level and societal level.

However, my friends please don’t misunderstand me by hearing my negative expressions. I am not hopeless, I am a visionary, I believe that ‘family is the school of love and peace’, ‘family is the mini government’, by which we can establish our ultimate goals happiness and peace in all spheres of life.

Note: Published in Panorama | TakingItGlobal | Jul 11, 2004

Bloody Journey

The journey is going without knowing the path
Most are dreadfully disparate
Don’t care to thorns, bricks or mud
Only serious to going forward

The path is now bloody artwork,
With our and Father’s bloody foot prints
Sometime crashing with rock,
Falling into drainage ditch

How unhappy and perilous our journey!
To look this scene; Father said with heartache–
“Oh! My children stop and stop,
Come and go to my way.”

Dhaka city and the environment

Dhaka, the capital, is in the heart of Bangladesh, is the largest and historical city of the country. More than twelve million people live in this busy city. The rickshaws with their ornate decorations and imaginative hand paintings have a special place in Dhaka city’s transport. It is known not only as “the city of rickshaw” and “city of Mosque” but also known for its population density, flood, crime, and pollution, like as other historical cities of the world.

It was established in the 10th century. It was Mughal capital of Bengal from 1608 to 1704. Pre – colonial period, it was a trading center for British French, and Dutch merchants. In 1905 it became capital of Bengal, and in 1956 it became the capital of East Pakistan. During the Bangladesh independence war in 1971 the city endured a catastrophic destruction. The Maga city is located in one of the world’s leading rice- and jute-growing deltaic region of the Ganges and Brahmaputra rivers. During Mughal rule, the finest fabric ‘Dhakaie Muslim’ was famous worldwide, until it was completely destroyed by colonies. The Muslim influence is reflected in the more than 700 mosques, historic architectures, life, food, and traditions of the city.

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ESDO (http://www.esdobd.org): The nationwide environmental activist organization ESDO (Environment and Social Development Organization), promotes environmental development, social welfare at the grassroots and communal levels to solve social and environmental problems on a large scale through education, advocacy and lobbying. It works also to ensure the conservation of bio-diversity and arriving at an ecological equilibrium with inputs for self-management in socio-economic strengthening programs.
Since 1991, ESDO has been working with people from the grassroots level, the urban youth population, the urban lower income group, and government and non-governmental organizations, such as Ministry of Environment and Forestry, and the UNDP. It has 48 networking partners both national and international, with whom ESDO shares information and involvement in programs.

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Shahjahan Siraj, a TakingITGlobal member, interviewed Dr. Hossain Shahriar and Siddika Sultana of ESDO on 13 June, 2004. Hossain Shahriar, is an urban ecologist, environmental journalist and Executive Director, ESDO; Siddika Sultana, is the Program Director of ESDO. Present at the interview too was Matsuzaki Misuzu, a Japanese social worker who is based in Bangladesh and helped ESDO translate a documentary Japanese broadcaster NHK made.

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Interview:

Siraj: What is your program in Dhaka?

Hossain Shahriar: We have regularly organized mass awareness, children & youth educational programs on different environmental issues on Dhaka city’s. More over our program focused on environmental education, awareness campaign, policy advocacy & lobbying, linking with human rights & governance using mass media and ICTs.

Siraj: Why are you focusing on Dhaka? What have been your findings? Could you please tell us briefly?

Hossain Shahriar: Due to urbanization the environment’s harmony and balance is facing a critical phase worldwide, strained trying to fulfil the demands of city life. Dhaka is not beyond this status, so we need to work more to protect our city from environmental degradation and create the natural balance.

Because Dhaka is the capital of the country, in our present governance system, national policy formation/reformation and for media campaign, it is very important to initiate the ground work at Dhaka first. If the program becomes streamlined at this city, it can easily expand to another divisional headquarters and other towns as well as influence the whole country.

Siraj: Please tell us about your background and activities.

Hossain Shahriar: We initiated a campaign against the plastic bag use at early 1990s. ESDO was formed with the anti-plastic campaign program. Gradually we moved to educate the young generation on environmental issues. Our main target is building effective and responsible young leadership through environmental education. The full- fledged educational program “creating environmental awareness through education for youth and children” started at early 1995, based in Dhaka.

We have started the comprehensive educational curriculum, which is unique but alternative. The educational process is not conventional, and is practical, following the participatory education method. We focussed on using ICTs for education, skills, learning and policy-intervening processes.

Siraj: Why did you choose environmental (especially plastic usage) issues?

Hossain Shahriar: Initially I was not an expert in environmental issues. My career started in journalism after graduation from Dhaka University in political sciences and a Masters in international relationship from Nehru University at New Delhi. I worked as journalist in weekly Shondani, Bechitra and the Daily Janata. I was encouraged on the environmental issues when I learned ‘Film Direction’ at 1986 at Australia, Melbourne.

On a weekday I was buying some fruit from market and shopkeeper given me with a paper bag. I was wondering to myself, and I requested for a plastic bag, which what I was accustomed in Bangladesh. The shopkeeper replied to me that she was not able to use the plastic bag because it is not good for the health and environment. It was good lesson in my initiative to be an environmental activist, and after this I educated myself about the environmental consequences of using polythene bags and learned that in other Asian cities such as Bangkok, significant strides were being made in eliminating these bags. Since that time I expanded my work to identify the many substances that people use in their everyday lives which are harmful to the environment and could be reduced or eliminated. But it was very difficult task to convince my editor on the issues. The response of my editor, was that “This is about rubbish… plastic bags are very essential in our daily life… You can not do anything to stop it… Please leave it alone and continue to be work on your assigned job…” But I tried to write again, and continue my work on the issues.

At 1998, there was a devastating flood in Dhaka. At that time I was senior editor of Daily Janata. For 25 days the city was underwater! I traveled to every corner of the city. In a corner of Shamoli, there is a low line area but water was not moving, stagnent. I had the question in mind, “Why is the water not moving?” I talked with WASA and City Corporation, but they could not say the cause, they had no idea. But someone said, there is a blockage in the water drainage system. At Shamoli I physically saw the drainage system totally blocked by plastic bags. My photographer and I cleaned a portion of of the plastic cluster and observed the water slowly moving. After that I wrote report – “Water Lagging Cause is Plastic Bags”. At first, nobody agreed with my opinion. After one month, Dhaka WASA admitted that plastic is main cause of water log in the city. That was the striking point of my issue. Based on these experiences, I started a campaign against plastic bag. It was difficult to move the people through news media of that time, without making a social platform and movement. I talked with some of my friends and colleagues in the early 90s and formed the organization ESDO.

To select the environmental issues we have a working ethos: “We are all part of environment, we have to protect and live with highest harmony for our existence. We have to be owners of the environment, not to be exploiters, like external bodies.”

During the banning of plastic use and making laws to prohibit the plastic bag, some professional assassin was recruited by the plastic businessmen to try and kill me. It was fourth attempt on my life, but I was escaped narrowly. They terrify in my personal life by phoning me at home, but they won’t stop my anti-plastic activities unless they kill me. We don’t always know the end results, but we have to go forward.

Siraj: Dhaka is a rising city: many high rise buildings are being developed everyday. What is your observation on this matter?

Siddika Sultana: I quietly don’t support it without considering the engineering and environmental aspects, but including Dhaka, all the cities of Bangladesh are building up with serious violation of the laws. I cannot understand why city corporations and RAWSUK (Dhaka city construction and housing authority) give permission to such types of dangerous construction. Recent accidents at Shakhariri Banzar have happened, where city dwellers live with high risk under an unhealthy and unsecured house system! A number of collapses already has happened! Including the government, all citizens should be aware of such matters. Regarding this we have to change our motivation, way of thinking. Too much dependency on the government, is not good at all. Governments cannot do anything if the citizen isn’t aware and active in protecting life and the environment. I think civil society can play important role to change the situation.

Siraj: Mr. Shahriar, as an urban ecologist, what are your remarks on Dhaka’s life and environmental health conditions?

Hossain Shahriar: The environmental health of Dhaka city is in serious condition. Pregnant mothers are facing especially serious situations. The houses are totally contaminated by different type of chemical gases. The gases generally generated from their kitchen, daily use cookeries, cosmetics, and furniture. Our research finding is that 90% children and mother affected by pollution in which the main cause is the modern apartment system. If you observe, you cannot see any ventilation in the modern apartment. I don’t know why RAWSUK gives permission to such kinds of apartments without proper ventilation systems. We found that this is not only happening to the poor, but the elites are also suffering such kinds of silent pollution. This is happening because of total lack of knowledge and guidance.

There is also a big lack in our city planning system. In Bangladesh, the government follows five year development plans, and their vision is limited only within five years. I think real development cannot be possible with the five years vision, it should be long term. In all developed countries follow long term plans of at least 50 years. Even though governments change, plans don’t change; but in our country government change means all plans change. In such ways, we lose time, wealth, and opportunity. We have environmental laws, but the authorities don’t care about the laws. The city authorities just concentrate on their five years plan and assignments.

Siraj: Dhaka city is quickly expanding in many ways: with such expansion, what type of effects will occur in the environment and modern city life?

Siddika Sultana: Too much expansion of the city distorts the environmental harmony. On the edge of Dhaka, the masses are expanding without considering the environmental balance. The real estate companies are only considering their business. They do not think about future life and environmental conditions. They are not concerned about the environment and bio-diversity. The wildlife (like guest birds that come from Siberia, every winter) animal and fishes who live in the water-bodies are balancing our ecosystem. If the city continues to grow recklessly like this, after 10 years, Dhaka will be a city of material and machine, not of life….

Siraj: What about tree-cutting in the parliament area and Osmani Uddan area?

Hossain Shahriar: The mass destruction of tree at Osmani Uddan is already done. People interested people came and cut trees at midnight, but because of government concerns the cutting is going slowly and in hiding.

There were many beautiful traffic circle (road islands) in Dhaka just a year ago. In front of Romna Perk, there were some big trees, some there for more than 50 years. Suddenly we saw there were no more trees. Within the last three months, in the name of road and traffic system improvement, they demolished all the road islands decorated by green plants. I was very shocked! This is not right way to do development, by destroying the environment. The trees are not just for beauty: they give us oxygen, reduce pollution, and ensure ecological equilibrium.

Recently my colleague Siddika initiated work for a comprehensive plant & tree census. She has group of 1200 students, and they will find all the old trees and medicinal plants of the cities. We will move to protect these trees. We will apply to the government and city to protect the trees.

Siraj: Do you have any ICT-related projects?

Hossain Shahriar: We have an e-group for green club student members. We are also trying link up rural children to city children, within Bangladesh and also in other countries. We have started also an ICT education project in the northern part of Bangladesh at a remote village, named Bathgari. We have established an ICT training centre there to encourage the children and youth. The children of the centre have already become basic computer users. Now we are going to install internet. The children of Bathgari village will be able to communicate with children of Washington. How powerful this digital bridge is! This not one way traffic, this is multi-way traffic. This modern technology can be used not only for entertainment and education, it can be used for communication, social awareness, and multiple purposes.

Siraj: What is your opinion about TakingITGlobal?

Hossain Shahriar: We have links and close relationships with a number of global platforms such as Greenpeace, Waste Conservation Movement, and so on. TIG is a nice and much-needed initiative. I appreciate very much this unprecedented global youth platform. To save our planet we have to work together. We would like to link the young members of our Green Club to the TIG. We can start a joint youth movement here in Bangladesh. If you need any help please feel free to contact with us. I wish best success in the programs of TakingITGlobal.

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Dhaka, 25 June 2004

Note: this interview was taken for TakingItGlobal and published in Panorama on 06 June 2004

The glory of language

A language is not just combination of words or phonetics. It is the history of a tribe or a nation; result of thousand years of experiences, glorious lifestyles, and means of communication as well as the expression of a people’s heart, which precedes civilization. We can hold, express, and develop the tangible and intangible heritage by this most powerful media. If we cannot express ourselves properly in daily ‘give and receive’ interactions or make true relationships with others, how can we play the important role of establishing the ultimate goal of ‘culture of peace’ and ‘peace kingdom’? In this holistic purpose, we need the bride of communication, language.

Naturally human beings can only express themselves absolutely through their mother tongue. But we are influenced too much nowadays by circumstances and merging ours original identity into the mainstream, English-biased colonial culture. Amidst the excitement and aggressiveness, we forgot to show proper love and respect to our indigenous culture. By the lack of this practice and the muscle strength of dominant culture and language, not only the small but fertile language and culture of ours pass away, a piece of our world is gone as well. Half of the 6,000 or so languages spoken in the world are under threat. Last three centuries thousand languages passed way at a dramatic increasing pace of English-centered modernization, especially in the Americas and Australia. At the present moment, on average 2 indigenous languages per month are disappearing due to improper record of wisdoms alighted in that language. Internet and digital opportunity opens the golden gate of potentiality that creates the revolution in the publication industry. It is a great chance to give a written form to all languages. In this technological era, we can be more or less a writer; we can easily write in our own language.

In the mainstream online platform the contents are published mainly in English. Presently The multinational software companies make the software in English just with concentration of worldwide business. They generally don’t think about the need and ability of the local people. Directly or indirectly they promote English as the Global language and or language of information. As a result from the mainstream education and modern computer based culture, local languages are being kicked out. If such a trend carries on, the digital opportunity will not have any benefits for the majority of disadvantaged people. If the English language barrier cannot be overcome, the use of computer will never expand into the grassroots levels. However, due to lack of care and practice, not only the indigenous languages but also the parental languages such as Latin, Sanskrit, Hebrew are going to perish from the global language family. It is time to avoid the immense use of the English language caused by negative influence of globalisation and internationalism. To play the proper and effective role we have to concentrate to globalisation along with nationalisation, and we need to complete the national course before or along with the global course.

Bangalis have great experiences in the language arena. We share pride for our ‘matribhasa’ (mother tongue). In 21 February 1952 Bangali youth Barkat, Rafiq, Shafiq made an unprecedented incident in world history by sacrificing their lives for their mother tongue. Since 1952 Bengali have been observing the day as ‘shaheed dibash’ ( Martyrs’ Day ). Every early morning on 21st February, thousand of people gather in front of Language Monument, take off their shoes and sing a humble song that goes ‘amar baier rokta ranganu ekusha february, amikee bulita pari’ with patriotic sprit. In such way Bangali shows respects to language martyrs and to their mother language.

The basis for the remembrance of this day about the great influence of language is based on the nation’s consciousness. After the British colonial period, Bangladesh (the former East Pakistan) underwent new colonial subjugation by Pakistani rulers. From the very beginning of emancipation (1947) Pakistani rulers denied the Bengali people equal opportunities and rights. The Bengali were very aware of the unfair policy. When the Pakistani rulers declared ‘Urdu’ as a state language, the language movement started and expanded as a public and national issue. The Language Movement served as a platform for Bengali nationalism. In the Bangali’s unchangeable procession and campaign, by the sacrifice of young patriotic lives, Bangla was recognized as the national language. In the way of language movement, Bangladesh won independence in 1971 with the sacrifice of millions lives. UNESCO has declared February 21st as International Mother Language Day. Since 2000, this day is for celebrating and inspiring the local and aboriginal languages to survive with self-pride and identity.

I hope Internet users, especially the young ones will concentrate on their language and local needs. In this information era, we do not have to sacrifice our lives for language, but we need attention, initiative, unity and march along together.

It is true, we grow up and live within different family, society as well as in different culture that gives us different identity and in expressions and way of thinking. Even though we have many differences in language and lifestyle, we are all the same and member of the same family. In this viewpoint we should have a common ground and language by which we can communicate and interact with each others. This is very necessary for universal unity and world peace. Please do not be misunderstood, for I am not advocating the colonial language, ‘English’. I would like to talk about the ‘language of true love’ by which does not have any specific alphabets or phonetics; and everyone can understand and interact beyond the borders using its invisible power. With the super power of this language we can easily unit and vanquish all suffering, conflict, violence, intolerance, unhappiness, and undesirable matters from our life and society. But unfortunately, most of all cannot understand the ‘language of true love’ because of our limitations, selfishness, wild emotions, unconsciousness, and misunderstanding. Sometimes we don’t want to understand and practice consciously because of our fallen nature.

The article was published in Panorama/ TakingItGlobal on 30 May 2004.

Living for the sake of others

Living for the sake of others

“When I remember the faces of those starving street children, I cannot eat anymore. I cannot stop my tears when I walk along the street of slum near the Sheraton Hotel. They eat only 2 times a day. With necked feet they play, run and sell flowers during traffic jams in Kazi Nazrul Avenue, but they always smile…” This testimony of Tunoda, a Japanese volunteer working in Bangladesh touched my consciousness. I asked her, “What is your opinion about the cause of these situations?” She said, “I don’t know, but I am sure it is the result of conflict and social imbalance in Bangladesh.”

After hearing this simple statement, I faced the struggles and conflict I see around me. I found myself in an invisible war. What a catastrophic this war is! We can’t see, but are suffering every moment. Conflicts in our family, school, work place and in politics are happening in various ways. Because of conflicts we are harassed with dwell desires, live with fears, anxieties, resentments, guilt, anger and understanding.

In ancient times, human beings were just like animals because of unconsciousness, lack of education, information, self-control and understanding. But what is going on now? We are civilized; have most powerful communication tools Internet, tremendous success in science and technology and global peace building organizations the UN. Why can we not be establishing our ultimate goal peace and happiness? To express my opinion on the cause and solution of suffering, I would like to concentrate on a core point.

Present modern era is directly or indirectly influenced by 19th century’s Social Darwinism, led by Herbert Spencer who claimed, ‘conflict in human society is natural.’ According to Social Darwinists “The survival of the fittest” that is ‘process of natural selection’ is also relevant in human society as like as another life kingdom. But I don’t agree with this hypothesis. If I support and follow them, as I believe the conflict will never end and peace will never established.

I would like to ask another basic question: Are human beings naturally good or evil? Personally, I believe human being is naturally good. We are all children of God, not Satan. We have spiritual universal values truth, beauty and goodness. After all we have the enormous potentiality and capacity to fulfill the universal purposes; and to be happy eternally through loving and being loved truly. (We have also evil desires. Here I will not discuss about the cause of evil desires.)

Conflict comes from ignoring or violating the universal principles- ‘living for the sake of others’. Mostly conflicts start from animosity emotions to verbal aggression, which lead us to abuse, injustice, hostility, exploitation, murder, and even war. In a nut shell, we can say conflicts begin from the individual level through ‘breakdown of interaction’, ‘ignoring the higher purpose’ and ‘accumulation of conflict’.

We know the universe is harmonized by the interrelated and orderly system. To generate the energy for anything to exist, act and reproduce, there is needed complementary subject-object partners. Conflict starts when breakdown the vital interaction between subject and object because of misuse, mistreatment, misunderstanding and in one way selfish control. Selfishness produces all kinds of negative emotions like arrogance, prejudice, greed, lust, exploitation and vengeance etc.

Everything has an individual purpose that maintains its own existence. Along with individual purpose everything has and under a higher purpose. Denying the higher that is whole purpose is another root cause of conflict. The person with mature character always gives priority to the whole purpose rather than their individual ones. In order to fulfill the higher purpose, we sometimes need to sacrifice our personal purpose or desire. Problems arise when we emphasis only on our individual purpose above the whole. Someone who constantly ignores the higher purpose is selfish. When our personal gain harms the well being of others, we quickly find ourselves in conflict because of our selfishness.

When we work together through harmonious giving and taking interaction centering on a common purpose, the result is greater unity and new developments. If selfishness exists within the individual, eventually conflicts prevail in the family and expand to the society. However, conflict in society occurs when one group or a nation pursues its self-interest over the greater good. Many conflicts among nations or ethnic groups today are the result of accumulated historical burdens of crimes and mistreatment. These transmit generation to generation because of ignorance or unwillingness to take responsibility. As an individual we are connected to the whole and to the past, present and future through our family, society, nation and the world. It is up to us to acknowledge our responsibility for conflicts at each of these levels and take steps to resolve them. By taking responsibility for past and present conflicts, we help relieve the burden of future generations, and free them to experience greater progress and harmony.

Cultivating our heart and character and living according to the principle ‘living for the sake of others’, we can make strong foundations for harmony and peace in all relationships. People who embody such altruistic qualities are recognized and honoured in every culture. It is proved that selfishness is the root of conflict, but no one is completely selfish, and no one is completely unselfish. Naturally we are a mixture of both natures, but can reach to original selfless status by self-denying process if we take the responsibilities of the situations with parental heart.

The whole resolution process can divide into three important steps. As these processes are related with restoring human’s original standard, it can be called ‘Restorational Conflict Resolution’ in which steps are –

1. Reflection and reorientation
2. Reversal and Restitution
3. Reconciliation and Renewal.

Reflecting from an unselfish viewpoint opens the door for resolving the conflict. Our fundamental beliefs and motivations govern the result, whether it would be good or bad. At first we must have to be humble and listen the word of offended which can transcend our own viewpoint and develop empathy. Usually we justified our action and position from our self-centered viewpoint. By following moral and ethical principles, we can easily overcome ignorance, misunderstandings, errors, illusions etc egoistic negative emotions, which is very necessary for conflict resolution.

Reversal role of the person and group can easily restore the situation from wrong to right. For example, Mahatma Gandhi played reversal role, loved English instead of hate. His reversal role changed the general trends of violence. To play reversal role it is very necessary to pay ‘indemnity conditions’ especially for a key person. If we damage someone’s property, we apologize and repair it, or we pay for the cost of repairs. Same thing needs to do for peace and harmony reestablishment with a total investment of heart.

No matter who is right or wrong, lasting peace can be achieved only when both sides sincerely desire it. The offender can more easily go through the indemnity course. If we truly pay attention into ‘reconciliation and renewal’, the conflicting values arrogance converted into humility, greed into generosity, exploitation into service, and enmity into love and forgiveness. Most of cause we, generally offended don’t want or can’t forgiveness as they persecuted. But forgiveness is much needed for reconciliation. Martin Luther King said, “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that…. we never get rid of an enemy by meeting hate with hate; we get rid of an enemy by getting rid of enmity.” When we can forgive the offender from the position of the offended, we transcend ordinary human limitations. Through making and accepting restitution, through forgiving and being forgiven, our hearts are healed and liberated.

However, if we always repeat and seek to justify ourselves, both internal and external conflicts will never be solved. By taking responsibility for our mistakes and understanding others, we can release ourselves from selfish pride and guilt. Our general tendency is to avoid the conflict without proper solution, so it repeats and transmits from one stage to another stage, generation to generation and once it accumulates as cultural conflicts. It is good to solve the conflict as soon as possible. More over, participating in conflict resolution is good for character growth. We have freedom and opportunity to either pass on the problems or pass on the solution.

In conclusion I would like to say, “Problem is not problem, problem is process of development if we can handle properly`. By following the motto ‘I am ok, you are ok’ we can interact and converse with differences positively, make a favourable situation. In this digital age we can easily solve all misunderstandings from local to global level by sharing experiences and ideas. Internet and digital technology bring us today in the same stage. TakingITGlobal is doing a great job by uniting different global youth communities. If our young people can learn how to relate to others with respect, fairness, tolerance and love, there can be hope for creating a new world culture of peace and prosperity.

References :

1. ‘Searching for life’s True Purpose’, 11 in a series, IEF New York 2001
2. ‘I am Ok you are Ok’, Thomas A. Harris, M.D. Avon Books, New York, 1973
3. ‘International Online Training Program on conflict resolution, www.colorado.edu/conflict/peace.
4. ‘My Journey in life’, a student textbook for character development, IEF New York 2001

Note: Published in Panorama | TakingItGlobal | 17 May, 2004